This article is written to address all those in secondary/high school who deal with feelings of misconception, rejection and loneliness in the form of social unconventionalism.

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Recognise those who are deemed 'popular' in your grade level or year group. Access what makes them so commonly liked. Its nearly always due to physical or outward appearance that creates a 'universal appeal'. Accept the superficial nature of this person's attraction and remember: false beauty doesn't last forever.
Discover that their status is mainly due to a mass of followers that adopt each others opinions in order to be a part of the popularity. This is not being true to themselves.
Many popular people also have insecurities and self-doubts but their outward appearance and attitude disguises feelings of imperfection. This can make the situation worse by reinforcing doubts deeper so others will not recongnise your flaws.
Unpopular people are often the successors of the future. Many popular people become occupied with being just that: achieving public recognition. They mis-prioritise their life, and often end up getting in with the wrong crowd and just become another drop-out.
Popular people are often only 'beautiful' on the outside. Few also possess admirable attributes such as intelligence and kindness. Their personality is often flawed. They may be empty and shallow which makes for an uninteresting character.
Embrace you as yourself. Many unpopular people may deal with shyness and inhibition. Some say this lack of social skills is a defect, but it can also be a hidden advantage. This can mean a person is more sensitive and insightful developing a more refined nature. This surely is better than being noisy and invasive?
Seek guidance in the form of other mis-understood characters. Holden Caulfield rejected 'phonies' and accepted them for who they really are: a fabricated exaggeration of a weak personality. Look beneath the surface and realize nothing and no one is perfect, it is simply an act of narcissism.