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It's hard to know how to act around boys. You may not be sure whether to be ultra-cool, ultra-social, ultra-serious or ultra-flirty. Stop thinking so hard. Set your mind on behaving naturally and you can easily talk to boys.

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[edit] Steps

Take a deep breath before talking to that cute boy. This only takes a few seconds and helps to calm you down so you can act more natural. Continue to do it if you feel yourself starting to freak out.
Offer compliments and ask him questions about himself. If he's talking about himself, you don't have to talk. If you know a particular guy's interest, get him chatting about it. Find out how the local basketball team did last night before talking to that hoops fan.
Look at their faces or at their lips if you can't focus on their eyes. This way you look like you're paying attention without getting overwhelmed.
Think about becoming friends with the boys first. Many romantic relationships began as friendships. This gives you time to get to know each other in a way that goes beyond physical attraction.
Focus on other things in your life other than boys or looks. Find hobbies and interests. This makes you more interesting to boys and gives you something to talk about with them, especially if they're in the same extracurricular activity.
Understand it may take a while to become comfortable around boys. Many adult women who now enjoy comfortable relationships with men, struggled with boys when they were teens. The older you get, the more confident you become.
Remember, the boys are just as nervous as you are. Chances are they're not really listening to you, but focused on themselves and worrying about how to act around you. Unless you make a total mistake with what you say, they probably won't notice.

[edit] Tips

Less is more. Always leave boys wanting to talk to you more. Talk to them for a few minutes and then move on. Don't follow them around; wait for them to come to you.
If a guy wants to talk with you, don't diss him. No one likes that.
Try leave him wondering. Don't play hard to get but make him nervous. If he's not nervous around you then you're doing something wrong.