If you are a bisexual or lesbian girl, sometimes it can be tough to find a girlfriend. If you are unsure how to ask a girl out if you are a girl, follow these instructions, and it might help.

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Become friends with her. If you know her from school or work, be sure to get to know her outside of the building. Acquire her phone number or email address. Go shopping with her, maybe. Do something that both of you are interested in and that won't strike her as you hitting on her.
Learn her views on the LGBT community. Don't even try to ask her out if she's against LGBT people, because she might be disgusted or uncomfortable by the idea or experience. You might lose her friendship otherwise.
If she's not against LGBT people, figure out a subtle way to let her know that you're bisexual or lesbian. You don't want to be in the middle of a conversation about food and randomly blurt it out. Wait until a similar topic comes up, and then figure out a way to tell her, if you are comfortable with it.
Learn if she is bisexual or lesbian. Just because she doesn't have anything against LGBT people doesn't always mean that she's LGBT herself.
If you know her to be bisexual or lesbian, give her subtle hints that you like her. Hang out with her more often than you normally would. Give her more physical contact (i.e. hugs, handshakes, etc...) than you did before. Seem extremely disappointed when she can't hang out with you sometimes.
If, at this point, she has noticed these signs and doesn't seem to be uncomfortable with all this attention, chances are that she feels the same way about you. If she hasn't noticed these signs, continue doing this until she does.
Gather up all your courage and tell her your feelings. Invite her on a date somewhere that you both like going. If she says no, don't nag her. Just stay friends with her.

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Let a good amount of time between each step. You don't want to rush things.
Try buying her something she had previously told you that she wanted, such as a book or a sweater. This will show her that you pay attention to what she says she wants.
Pay attention to what she says she likes or dislikes. You don't want to offend her by bringing up a topic she clearly does not like.
Help her out with something. If she considers you a good artist or writer and wants tips, give them to her. It also works in reverse. Compliment her artwork and writing (or other hobbies etc...) and ask her to teach you sometime. This will make her feel really confident and good about herself.
If sure she's a lesbian/bisexual,don't wait too long to tell,or the chance will be someone else's.

[edit] Warnings

If she doesn't want to be your girlfriend, she doesn't want to be your girlfriend. Don't dwell on it and pester her until she says yes, because more than likely you're reducing your chances.
If you are a lesbian or bisexual girl and she strongly has an opinion against LGBT people, it's probably not best to spend too much time around her. The result may be hurt feelings and/or being victim of a stereotype.
If she's straight and unwilling to "convert" into being lesbian or bisexual for the sake of being in a relationship with you, don't try to change her. Nothing good can come from this.
Do NOT change yourself for her. Just like no straight girl should change for a guy, no lesbian or bisexual girl should change for another girl.