Asking can be the most difficult thing to do.

Are you too shy to ask your favorite girl to the school dance? Are you scared of being rejected? Have you ever wondered how some kids seem to know somebody will say "yes" before they ask? If you have a girl you'd like to invite to the dance, here's how.

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[edit] Steps

Find out whether she already has a date for the dance by asking her or her friends. By phrasing the question casually, you can find out what you need to know with minimal risk. Try asking, "So who are you going to the dance with?" If you know one of her friends, you can also ask them, but be aware that the friend may tell the girl you asked.
Make sure that you two are alone (not suspiciously alone) before you ask her to the dance, as this will be more comfortable for everybody. Take a deep breath and walk by her. Pay a compliment and start a conversation. Don't just blurt out your question to get it over with. No matter how nervous you are, take your time. The chances are that she will have made her decision before you ask her anyway. If she says "no," do not ask why. Say, "Oh. All right. That's fine." Don't make it evident if she's hurt your feelings. If you are worried that she will say "no," but you really need a date, do something that will sweep her off her feet, something so "cute" that she can't say "no."
Drive to pick her up for the dance; if you cannot drive, then meet her at the dance. Try not to both go in the same ride as your parents or siblings.
Tell her that she looks nice. This is very important as many girls put a lot of time into looking nice for a school dance...and for their dates. Let her know that you appreciate it. If she compliments your outfit, say thanks. Do not wait for her to compliment you first.
Escort your date at the dance; always be by her side unless she asks to talk or go somewhere for a few minutes.
Be sure to give your date some time to herself if she asks for it.
Volunteer to get her a drink.
If it's an informal dance and a slow song is playing, her friends will most likely push you two together. Don't be alarmed or angry. It's just how they show their encouragement. Smile at her and talk; make her laugh. She's probably just as nervous as you are. If she doesn't seem to want to dance, let it go.
Ask your date to dance. You may be formal and ask, "May I have this dance?" but if she is a friend of yours, you might want to take a more casual approach, such as "Would you like to dance?" or even "Wanna dance?"
Talk to her a little during the slow dances. Talking makes it a little more comfortable for the both of you.
If you'd like to dance with another friend, get permission from your date first. Going without consulting her is disrespectful and might give the wrong message. If she does it to you, don't mention it. Don't ruin it for the both of you. If she asks to dance with a friend, say "yes."
Give her a hug when the dance is done. Tell her that you had a great time. She will probably say the same.
Remember this, guys: Girls think that it's cute and funny when guys dance in the group; leaning against the wall doesn't work. More than likely, she won't expect you to ask her for a dance if you don't dance yourself.

[edit] Tips

Be a gentleman. Be charming.
If it's a formal dance, bring a rose to pin to your shirt and a rose wrist band corsage to put on her wrist. It's generous and proper, and she will love it and appreciate you for it.
Pull a chair out for her.
Don't forget about her; remember that she is your date for the dance, so always treat her with respect.
Be there at the right time to bring her to the dance.
Make arrangement to get home after the dance if you have not driven.
Be sure to talk to her and show that you're interested in being her friend.
Relax. It's only a dance. You can go to hundreds more if you want. If you act too nervous, she will begin to get nervous herself and possibly reject you.
Do not prepare what to say or practice in front of a mirror. Trying to memorize and then present a prepared speech will just make you more nervous. Go with the flow.
Make sure that you do this a few days before the dance to find out what she's wearing (if it's a dress-up type dance) so that you can match.
Don't be overly creative in asking her to the dance. Keep it simple, especially if you have never dated her before.
Listen to what she has to say.
If she says, "I'll think about it," don't call her for a confirmed response. Wait until she calls you back for a confirmed response. If she doesn't call back three days before the date of the dance, take it as a no.
Take a shower, use deodorant or antiperspirant, brush your teeth, and make your breath smell good. Don't overdo it. Never overdo cologne.
Dress nicely.
Be easy on yourself. Not everything has to be absolutely perfect.
Don't worry about being yourself; that's what the girl likes you for (if she said "yes").

[edit] Warnings

Never have a friend ask her for you; girls would rather you had the courage to do it yourself.
Never ask on the phone or in a text message.
She may want to dance with other friends. Don't take that seriously either. If she asks you, it's okay. Remember that she said "yes" to go with you!
People may downgrade you for going out with a certain girl, perhaps because they don't like her or don't think that you should be going with her. Ignore them. If you like her, that's all that matters.
Remember that no means no!
If she runs away, it is probably because she is shy. Don't worry about it; she might still really like you.
Don't make it too awkward for her. She would want this to be a memorable night.

[edit] Things You'll Need

1. A rose to pin and a rose wrist corsage
2. Money
3. A ride (If you can, pull in with a very nice car such as a Corvette. Girls love to be picked up in a nice car. You can rent a nice car if you want.)