This is broad subject. This topic is a concise step-by-step way to determine if there will be a date. You have to determine who to ask and when. This is based on experiences of males asking females. Although it can work equally as well in other combination of sexes.

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Determine when the time is right to ask. Normally there has to be some familiarity. This method can work with out-and-out strangers but is not recommended.
Ask (her/him) in these exact words. If you get an answer other than yes we will proceed with overcoming objections. Overcoming objections is a sales tool and yes, you are selling yourself (to her).
"WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO OUT WITH ME SOMETIME?" Is the worst line ever because, if they say no you've got no way out, even if they say yes you still have to ask them out.
Ah the simplicity. You are asking what she likes. Every quality relationship is built on respect and interest in each other. You have just succeeded in asking her about an interest: you. yes or no. You have proven you respect her. You asked her opinion.
If yes. Victory. You got a date. Now you have to plan the date according to her interests. Dinner, movie, theatre, dancing, et al.
If no, or reply with another question here comes how to overcome the objections.
No. Tell them you understand that your request may have caught them off guard. You understand and ask them to reconsider at a later date. If you ask them why (and they have not already given a good reason) you may be forcing them to defend a position and opinion. They shouldn't be forced to defend their position. No is ok. Continue with the relationship as it was as best you can. Don't overbear or make them obligated to say yes. Often if you back off the mere fact that you expressed an interest may peek their interest at a later date. Hey, they may ask you out.
If they reply with another question of any kind, go back and clarify your initial question. Emphasize the points. Would YOU LIKE to spend sometime with me doing something you like? The time, place and activity is what ever they like. The catch is if it is something that repels you and cannot stand.
Stand firm in asking the question as asked to get the answer. Do not acknowledge objections as to when, where or what you will do. Those are peripheral issues that (especially women or girls) use to avoid the real, perinent singluar question. Do you like me enough to go on a date me?
The question is DO YOU THINK YOU WOULD LIKE TO DATE ME? You are asking the hard question that will separate the men from the boys. DO YOU THINK YOU WOULD LIKE TO SPEND TIME WITH ME DOING THINGS YOU LIKE TO DO?
If you continue to get any answer other than YES or NO then drop it for now because they are unwilling to respond to the question as asked. The only important question is:
WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO OUT WITH ME SOMETIME? Boys set themselves up for failure by clouding the issue with when. When it's convenient. Determine that if she is interested. Where and what. Determine that if she is interested.
YES, NO or I DON'T KNOW are the only answers you are interested in. If she asks what or when, reassure her by softening the question. So the answer is yes? You will go out on a date with me if we can arrange a day, time, place and activity?. YES or NO? "I don't know" is an answer that you begs your reply. If they don't know, tell them ok and that you will ask them again tomorrow. Ask until the answer is yes or no. "Let me think about it" is an ok answer, also. Give them a day to think about it. Don't overbear and push them away.
The tragic mistake here is to accept an answer of no because of day, time, place or activity. Rule that out until you get a yes answer.
I hope you see my point here: Ask a single YES or NO question to determine her interest in you...not the date, time, place or activity.
You cannot determine if she is rejecting you because of you alone if you allow her to say no because of the date, time, place or activity.
WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO OUT WITH ME SOMETIME? Learn it. Repeat it. Let it roll off your tongue. Say it so that when you utter that simple phrase it will guarantee that she sees the confidence in you. Delivering this simple statement effectively may be enough to convince her. If not her, someone else.

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If she says yes then proceeds to a long string of excuses - day, time, place, activity...the yes may have been a lie. Stand strong. Move on. The ball is in your court. You control your fate. Ask someone else. Supply and demand may bring her around.
When she sees you dating someone else, she may take the initiative to ask you out. Let her pursue you. You can't help but love that.

[edit] Warnings

It may be hazardous to your health if you ask out a girl who is involved with a jealous neanderthal. Make sure this question comes after you research her background. Do you really want to date her, not just her appearance?