How to Be Respectful in a Jewish Environment
Have you been invited to a Jewish religious or life event? Not quite sure how to behave? Here's how you can show respect to the people around you.
Be aware that there are several types of Judaism. Orthodox Judaism is the most traditional. In some Orthodox synagogues, men and woman sit separately. Reform Judaism is more relaxed and has fewer rules. Conservative Judaism is mid-way.
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- Wear clothes that are modest and in good condition. This means no bare shoulders or knees for both men and women. In an Orthodox setting, women will fit in better if they wear a skirt (not too short) and also keep their upper arms covered. People tend to wear nicer clothing on the Sabbath (Friday night and Saturday until sundown) and on major holidays than they do on minor holidays.
- Consider wearing a skullcap (known as either a kippah or a yarmulke. Men (and, in some movements, women) have the option of wearing a skullcap ). Covering one's head is considered a sign of respect towards God and is required in many synagogues.
- For certain services, men (and some women) will wear a tallis prayer shawl). However, non-Jewish men should not wear a prayer shawl.
- Know that Jews stand for certain parts of the service, such as when the Torah ark is open and for specific prayers. This is done as a sign of respect so stand up when others do. Often the person leading the service will invite the congregation to stand when appropriate.
- Some Jews will move their bodies when praying. This is to engage the entire person in the prayer. It is not necessary for you to do this.
- Understand that Hebrew goes from right to left. Thus, the front of the prayer book and of the Bible is "at the back." Treat any religious books carefully and respectfully.
- It is considered inappropriate to talk during services.
- Religious services on the Sabbath and holiday mornings usually last 2-3 hours. Keep that in mind when you are making decisions about breakfast.
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- Every community is different. Ask your hosts what is typical for their community.
- These tips apply in the United States. In Israel, people are much more casual, and many Israelis are completely secular.
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- Do not bring a food into a synagogue unless you are 100% certain that it is kosher, and that the day is not a fast day.
