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Interactive Focusing deepens and broadens relationships, and was developed by Janet Klein and Mary McGuire following on work with Eugene Gendlin and others at the NFP Focusing Institute (Chicago and New York). It assumes you can already find a body-felt sense. Click the link if this 'body-felt sense' is new or unclear for you.

Interactive Focusing allows you to touch into your direct experience in the presence of another person. Through your direct experience in the safe, empathic, accepting and compassionate environment which you create together, you become aware of, and share your inner truths to build trust and bonds of intimacy.

Focusing is more than being in touch with your feelings and different from body work. Focusing occurs exactly at the interface of body-mind. It consists of specific steps for getting a body sense of how you are in a particular life situation. The body sense is unclear and vague at first, but if you pay attention it will open up into words or images and you experience a felt shift in your body.

There are no sacred instructions. Don't rush, take a breath first. Approach yourself and the other person in modesty and sincerity. Allow that which is unspoken to speak.

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[edit] Steps

Part One: The Focuser's Story
- A.
  - Focuser:Tells a reasonable part of her story, always touching into the bodysense.
  - Listener: Listens from the bodysense and offers reflective responses throughout the story-telling.
- B.
  - Focuser: Resonates the reflection for accuracy, to see if the inner experience shifts, to see if more comes. Gives Listener feedback, e.g. "I need more time with that," "I’d like to hear that again," "Yes…," "No, it’s more like…," "There’s another part I need you to hear…."
  - Listener: Reflects the feedback to acknowledge the correction and to let the Focuser resonate it, e.g. "So it’s more like…," "It’s not…, it’s…."
- C.
  - Focuser: Checks to see if she has come to a resting place with this part of her story.
  - Listener: Also, can check with the Focuser to see if this part feels complete.
Part Two: The Double Empathic Moment aka The "Golden Moment"
- D.
  - Focuser: Invites the Listener to go inside to the bodysense to form the empathic response: How does the Listener get that it is for the Focuser from the Focuser’s internal frame of reference. At the same time, the Focuser checks inside to get the edge of where she is with her own story and to be gentle with what is there for her.
  - Listener: Goes inside: Takes time to let a bodysense form. Listens inside as if she were the Focuser. How might all that feel for the storyteller?
- E. (Note: Usually the Listener goes first with the empathic response.)
  - Listener: Offers the empathic response: The metaphor or image that has formed. It is usually brief and more poetic, capturing the essence of it.
  - Focuser: The Focuser resonates the Listener’s empathic response to see if it fits and gives feedback if needed, e.g. "That really captures it," or "It’s more like…for me."
- F.
  - Focuser: Offers what came when she went inside to get how it is for her now in this new moment.
  - Listener: Gives reflective responses.
- G.
  - Focuser: Quiet moment to savor how it feels to share oneself and feel empathically heard.
  - Listener: Quiet moment to savor how it feels to hear and take someone into your space, empathically.
Part Three: The Interactive Response The pair switches roles
- H.
  - The Focuser becomes the "new" Listener. Asks what got touched inside the "new" Focuser by what she just shared.
  - The Listener becomes the "new" Focuser. Checks inside to see what got touched by the first Focuser’s story.
  - They follow A-G above so the Listener has a chance to tell her story and feel empathically heard.
Part Four: The Interactive Closing — The relationship check
- I.
  - Focuser and Listener: How do I feel about you now that we have shared all of that?
  - Focuser and Listener: How do I feel about myself after sharing all of that with you? How do I feel about us?
Summary: The Interactive Focusing Model Short form for Dyads (Pairs)
- Part One: The Focuser’s Story
  - The Focuser tells her story
  - The Listener gives reflections
  - The Focuser resonates and gives feedback if necessary
- Part Two: The Double Empathic Moment
  - Full Empathic Response by both the Listener and Focuser
- Part Three: The Interactive Response
  - Exchange roles and repeat Part One and Part Two
- Part Four: The Interactive closing, The Relationship Check
  - How they now feel about each other and
  - How they now feel about themselves.

[edit] Tips

Interactive Focusing requires that the participants get in touch with an unclear issue that is carried in their bodysense or 'felt sense'. See the link below to http://www.wikihow.com/Focus-and-Get-a-Felt-Sense
It requires that there is a listener using reflective responding as their listening modality. But it further requires that the full experience is one that is created jointly and dependent on a balanced participation by both.
Because it is a mutual experience, certain safeguards must be in place. Interactive Focusing has developed into a practice of empathy and compassion in a safe environment, and Interactive Focusing has become the mode for developing empathy, acceptance and compassion in a safe environment.