Afraid your boyfriend will cry too much if you say, "It's over"? Well this is how to get him to break up with you, so you don't feel guilty, and he doesn't cry.

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[edit] Steps

Make sure you want the relationship to end. If you have any doubts about breaking up with him, try to fix the situation, not demolish it.
Reconcile the ethics of what you are about to do (manipulate someone you care enough to call your boyfriend with intent to getting what you want) with your principles . This is perhaps much too complex a problem for a wikiHow article to cover thoroughly: some girls feel guilty killing insects whereas others are seemingly amoral and have no conscience whatsoever. Ultimately though if you do not have a clear answer to why you are doing this you will wind up as the whining emotional mess you are trying to dump (for details of what to do if you cannot reconcile manipulation with your conscience see "TIPS" below).
After you decide that you are tired of giving pity-parties every day, slowly start to distance yourself. When he tries to tell you about how horrible his day was, casually change the subject with something you suddenly remember you have to tell him. Don't do this too often though, as it will seem obvious then.
When he's trying to get you to give him sympathy, don't. Maybe you can just shrug and say "yeah, that sucks"... don't be too mean, but don't give him the shoulder-to-cry-on that he's wanting.
And if you do however end up being that shoulder that he needs to cry on... Stand there and hug him, but let him cry, don't say anything like 'Come here baby', or 'there there'. Just stand there emotionless, don't even think about bringing up conversation relating to what he is so upset over.
When he says "I love you", try not to say it back. If you've made a habit of saying it though, taper that off.
Become irritable and moody. Don't make it seem like it's his fault, but that you are just mad at the world and want to be alone cause you don't want to 'snap at him'... Do this more and more often if possible.
Stop being as affectionate. If he makes the initiative, don't make it obvious that you don't want to, but do not make the first move yourself.
Try not to talk to him. Make as little conversation as possible.
If he hates listening to stories about your previous partners, tell him loads, and add a bit of extras in to make him feel even more insecure.
Become busy with everything except him. Spend as much time at work as you can, or with family... Because after all that work, of course you only want to go to bed.
At this point, your boyfriend should be quite annoyed and sad with where this relationship is going, and is probably having a lot of 'depressed' moments himself. When he finally goes to break up with you though... Apply the following:
- Just be quiet and listen when he is talking, don't interrupt him or make arguments.
- When he makes statements about his confusion regarding your attitude and behavior, don't offer an explanation, just shrug and say you don't understand it either.
- Don't cry. C'mon, you knew this was coming, so even if it does hurt your feelings, keep a straight face and deal with it.
- Don't smile either. Victory may be at hand, but you need to finish the battle first.
- Do not console him. Don't hug him and say this is probably for the best, and don't do "one last kiss".
- With the breakup done, get out of there as fast as you can. If he tries to call or get back with you, maintain that icy heart that you've had since the start of this quest, but stay nice about it all.
- Throw a party.

[edit] Tips

If you cannot reconcile this manipulation with your principles you must dump him.
This is easy as spending a week observing him closely, and secretly noting down everything he does that repels you. Needless to say you do not want be caught doing this. Use discretion, and do not inform any mutual friends of what you are doing (the relationship consists of you and your boyfriend, frankly its none of their business).
At the end of the week read the list and you'll certainly feel more motivated to rid yourself of him. Read it, re-read it and destroy it (getting caught with a list of someones failings will screw up anyone's reputation, even that of someone who is decidedly not manipulative).
Then met him face to face and just tell him its over. If he tries anything to change your mind ("I can change", etc.) you'll be glad to have re-read that list.
And don't say "it's not you, it's me."
Remind yourself that a relationship is a privilege, one that requires effort from both sides to make work. This is something that the emotionally overblown would rather you didn't dwell on.
As with all break-ups... Don't try spending time with him afterwards. Months, even years may be necessary before you can rekindle any friendship you might want to have.

[edit] Warnings

Manipulating unstable people can lead to dangerous, risky, and undesirable results. For details of achieving similar results without manipulation, see Tips, above.