You see them everywhere now -- TV shows, movies, etc...but somehow you don't have any lesbian friends? Why? Lesbians are often hanging out with other lesbians so it can be a bit difficult to get a lesbian friend, but here are some tips if you want to get one (as a friend, of course).

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[edit] Steps

Be honest and transparent about your intentions (maybe you want a lesbian friend to help you meet girls or just to understand women better). Many lesbians will likely be pretty wary of straight guys wanting their attention.
Look around you; gay people, not just lesbians, are everywhere -- clubs, bookstores, etc. To "cold meet" anyone (not just lesbians) is more difficult that to be introduced by a mutual friend. You can sometimes find gay women to meet by going to an event that might be of interest to lesbians (or women in general), such as a breast cancer awareness meeting, or a breast cancer fundraiser. Taking an interest in things is a great way to meet anyone. When you want to find friends to play golf with, by all means, go and play golf - there will definitely be golfers on the golf course.
Plan on give and take. You will not be able to simply barge into the life of every and any lesbian you meet. If you want to cultivate a lesbian friend, that's actually an admirable aspiration for a straight guy. However, being a true friend and simply attempting to use someone for personal gain are two very different propositions. Unless you actually have some interests in common besides an attraction to women, you will not make a friend, and she will soon tire of your attempts to pick her brains. If you aren't ready to be a real friend, or if you simply aren't compatible, you won't end up as friends - and if you blatantly use her and she figures out what you're doing, she'll put the word out into the lesbian grapevine, and you'll be persona non grata amongst all those she knows.
Take your time. It's fine to resolve that you should have more diverse friendships and set about to rectify that situation. But it's something completely different to think it will happen instantly simply because you thought of it. Just as you don't like every straight guy you meet, and aren't interested in every straight girl you meet, and vice versa, you and your intended lesbian friend might not hit it off either. If you meet a lesbian you don't feel a connection with, pass her by and wait to meet someone else whose personality and interests match more closely with your own.
Let it happen naturally. As mentioned, it's a nice idea to diversify your friendship base, but it's way better if you simply open yourself up to the possibility and then let nature take its course than if you go, like some kind of shark, out staking out or stalking lesbians to recruit for your new posse. Instead, just tell yourself, "it would be fun to have a new friend, and if I meet a nice lesbian, I'm going to try to make a friend of her."

[edit] Tips

Always be yourself and don’t be shy about showing your emotions.
Try to avoid stereotypical expectations of your lesbian friend. Lesbians come in all shapes, sizes and personalities.
Try not to introduce your girlfriend (if you have one) the first time you meet this girl. She might think you are searching a threesome or something.
If after some time you find a girl that suits you, don't cast off your lesbian friend. She might think that you were just using her while you were single.
Be open to going to gay places. Your lesbian friend will want to hang out with other gay people sometimes; you will score major points if you, a straight male, have no problem hanging out with gays (women or men). It will show your lesbian friend that you have an active interest in being a part of her life and her circle of friends. If you are nervous about gay people, discuss your worries with her before you go. (Just remember: if a gay man hits on you when you're at a gay establishment with your lesbian friend, take it as a compliment; gay men knock themselves out to look great for each other, and if they think you're good-looking enough to be one of them, you should feel flattered rather than threatened.)

[edit] Warnings

Never try to date your lesbian friend! She might get offended and run away. You don’t want this to happen so if you really like your new friend please respect her for who she is.

Do NOT tell your lesbian friend that you and her have so much in common because you both like women. It is irritating and they probably already know unless they are lead to believe that you're gay also.