How to Get to Know Someone Even Better
Do you have a friend, family member, or significant other that you don't understand fully or don't know the little things about? A lot of us do.
[edit] Steps
- Make sure both you and the person/people you are trying to get to know are open enough to tell you things.
- Think of things you would want to tell about yourself (for example: "I still suck my thumb" or "I like to mix my vegetables with chocolate." Whatever small things people don't know about you.)
- Don't allow a lot of discussion during the activity. It can be hard to keep sharing if you hear a comment on everything you say.
- Decide on the rules for your activity. For example, do you want a time limit. Do you want to allow anything negative/positive or just stick to neutral tidbits? Do you want to have a certain set number of times each person is allowed to discuss a fact? If so, how many and how restrictive do you want the discussion to be? (Do you want them to be allowed to discuss anything other than that specific fact during that time?)
- Write your rules and guidelines down somewhere you can display them for the participants.
[edit] Tips
- Allow people to request topics for facts but keep in mind that you can refuse to discuss it.
- Create a list of possible topics to break the ice and post them with the rules.
- Always start the activity yourself. You decided to do this, and the others may be self-conscious or unsure so you should get them warmed up.
- Start with something surprising but not too off-the-wall. You want them to get the point that this is to share but don't make them feel they need spectacular things to say.
[edit] Warnings
- Don't tell anything major or embarrassing if these aren't people that are good at keeping secrets or that you're not sure if you can trust
- Don't let it turn into a contest...or don't invite people who are going to get competitive. It's amazing how something like this can turn into a competition to see who has the weirdest things to say or something.










