Many people find themselves fighting with their partners night after night. They almost wish they could run away and just find a better life somewhere else.

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You must want your relationship to work.
Reflect back on the things that made you fall in love with your spouse in the first place. If either of you have changed and those things are no longer there, then look for qualities in your spouse that you are still attracted to.
Be honest with your spouse. Let him or her know what you are feeling and thinking. It may be painful for your spouse to know that the flame is dying but it is better they know and can lend support.
Communicate, communicate, communicate. Do not accuse. Do not threaten. Do not nit pick. Those are wedges that will drive the strongest relationship apart.
If you find yourself having feelings for another person, you owe it to yourself, your spouse, and the other person to understand why you have those feelings. It is okay if you are truly unhappy in your marriage, many people are. But if you merely see some qualities in that other that your spouse lacks, but you still love your spouse, try telling your spouse what you would like them to do or to be like.
Try to change your spouse, and encourage him or her modify their behavior. However, you must be willing to be patient and to modify your own as well.
When alone, think about your spouse. Remember the way it was and realize that (in many cases) it still is but time has dulled the emotion.
Finally, ask yourself this question and answer it truthfully, "Do I love my spouse?" If the answer is yes, then do whatever it takes to make it work.

[edit] Tips

When you need to wind down after work, take a breather in a quiet place and reflect on your day, then and only then begin to share the rest of your day with your partner.
Lavender oil on your pillow will always reduce stress.
Meditation is always relaxing.
Your partner should be your sounding board not the punished person for your problems.